Exploring Vulnerability
Healing Self energy is like any new experience, one step at a time. As in the words of Mahatma Gandhi
"Your beliefs become thoughts"
"Your thoughts become your words"
"Your words become actions"
"Your actions become habits"
Your habits become values"
"Your values become your destiny".
So with this understanding, when we keep our hearts & minds open to explore a wider view of what is possible, our perspective of life can change. Self Heal with Liz uses tools such as strengthening intuition, the 8 limbs of yoga for movement & meditation, journal writing, self reflecting, & having a gratitude practice. As well as, recognizing how powerful the Mind is and graciously developing our mental muscle in connecting the communication pathways to the Body & Soul.
Vulnerability is how I figured this out. Full surrender of exploration and observance. Just like trial and error, try something new, explore how it feels and observe how the mind and body respond to it. When I trust that the Universe has my best interest, new experiences don't seem so scary. If we are presented in our life with something unfamiliar, instead of running from it, we can consider EXPLORING it. This is an optimistic ongoing life skill.
When I allow myself to do something unfamiliar with a perspective of "exploration" there are no expectations or attachments to result in certain outcome because i have nothing to compare it to. THIS IS WHERE I LITERALLY GET TO REWIRE MY BRAIN PATHWAYS! When I listen to my intuition and it feels pleasant, I explore further. When I listen and it feels unpleasant, I let it go. In every decision I ask "what feels charming? What is my preference? Then I follow that flow to the best of my ability. Often times my preferences are not met, but I know there are many paths including failure, that will ultimately get me to where I want to be.
Most of these tools to help shift our perspective have been used for centuries within different cultures.
The following has been scientifically researched:
* Meditation & Yoga (focused movement & concentration) can reduce symptoms of stress, anxiety, chronic pain, heart disease & depression.
*Journal writing increases immunity and memory functions.
*Gratitude practice increases happiness, motivation and compassion
*Listening to intuition brings awareness of patterns and the body responds by sending messages about it to the head, heart and gut brains.
I had to STOP & catch myself every time I was critical with negative self talk ("I don't deserve to be happy"), Shoulding ("I should have been there when Mykel died"), name calling (I'm so helpless"), beating myself up when I made a mistake or did "something stupid." I STOP feeling shame when I take time for self care or to enjoy my favorite taste of sweet.
I STOP feeling bad when i'm angry or frustrated and instead give myself permission to FEEL and release in a healthy way (like journal writing or primal screaming alone in my car).
I STARTED using language like " I'm doing my best," "this anxiety I feel just has room for improvement" & when something pleasant happens i respond with "how usual."
The opportunity to shift your perspective around death can bring comfort and peace. Continuing a bond with your lost loved one, explains that death ends a life, not a relationship.
Joyful grieving can be attainable with gratitude and permission to look at your current life experience with compassion.
But I’m getting ahead of myself...
How do you currently see the conflicts in your current life? Do they overwhelm & make you feel small? Or do they inspire you to get creative & problem solve?
Perhaps you already do, but can you feel your loved one's unseen presence? How has your lost loved one continue to inspire you today? Do you see signs in your environment that they are sending you messages to communicate?
